The guide to dating after 60
30th August 2018
Later in life, the prospect of dating can be extremely daunting. The idea of sitting across the table from a stranger or having to travel to new places can put off many adults over 60. For those who struggle with limited mobility and perhaps need the help of a stairlift at home, getting out of the house can be a challenge in itself. However, with the introduction of online dating websites and apps, many of which are designed specifically for older people, there is now a support network for those seeking to find love or companionship.
Recommended dating services for over 60s
Saga, an organisation which focuses on the needs of Brits over 50, now has its own dedicated dating service. Saga Dating aims to help older people find love, romance and fun. It is one of the oldest and best-known online dating communities, with an intelligent two-way matching feature to help people narrow down their search, and hopefully find their perfect companion. Creating a profile with Saga Dating is free, however there are paid-for subscription options available starting at £10.50 per month.
For those seeking something more in their lives by way of companionship, Stitch may be able to help. The online social community has a unique profile browsing system that focuses on ‘quality connections’, with no unsolicited contact and a focus on shared interests. Stitch is great for those taking their first steps into the world of companionship and dating. We spoke to Jane Thompson at Stitch to find out more: “Stitch is a community for over 50s to meet new people through activities and travel.
“The world’s only over 50s companionship community created by members for members, bringing like-minded people together. Stitch is about connecting people in the real world and we have thousands of members who have met both friends and romantic partners. Our Stitchers love to get together both individually and in groups. Whether it’s a new movie, art exhibit, hiking or just dinner, we make it easy to meet people.
“We only allow people over 50 years old to join. All members are verified and we take security and community respect very seriously. Before communicating on Stitch, all our members must perform an identity verification check, which prevents scammers and con-artists from abusing our site or contacting our members.”
We asked the team at Stitch for their advice to those using their service for the first time: “Get involved! We’d love to meet you. Stitch is a friendly place and the first step towards finding someone special is to sign up, create a profile and say hello to some of our fantastic members on the site.”
Basic Stitch membership is free, however there are paid subscriptions available.
For those who have experienced a difficult breakup, divorce, or sadly lost someone they love, this service offers a supportive space in which to meet like-minded people. LoveAgain encourages people to meet others who understand what they’ve gone through, in the hopes of finding companionship, and possibly romance. Its website states: “LoveAgain has a low-pressure ‘friends first’ approach, which brings like-minded people together. Friendship is the foundation of a great relationship, and our uplifting community will give all its members a confidence boost.”
LoveAgain is free to join however there are paid subscriptions available.
Finding a companion or potential new love with similar interests is very important. Muddy Matches is an online dating service with a focus on those leading a rural life. The service has more than 200,000 members from the UK and Ireland, all with one thing in common – they love the countryside. The service was launched by two sisters with a farming background and remains a family-run business, describing itself as ‘the only independent dating site for genuine country-minded people’. Muddy Matches is free to join however paid subscription packages are available.
My Lovely Parent
My Lovely Parent is a unique dating service which allows people to set up online dating profiles on behalf of their older single parents. While they will make the initial introduction to the service on behalf of their parents, the parents themselves will have to accept the invitation and work on their profile, so nothing is done without consent. Matt Connolly, the brains behind the website, came up with the idea while chatting through business ideas with his mum, who is in her 60s. She suggested her son helped ‘find her a knight in shining armour’, and so the idea was born. One of the key elements of My Lovely Parent is that it helps older singles to take their first step back onto the dating scene with added support. My Lovely Parent is free to join however subscription starts at £12.99 per month.
For single older people seeking to bond with someone over their shared love of arts, this is the perfect dating service. Love Arts is designed to allow people with a mutual love of all things arts-related to find each other and develop companionships and relationships. Pitched as a service for ‘cultured singles’, this is a great place to start if you’re looking for someone to enjoy an evening at the theatre with, or perhaps an afternoon at a local art gallery or museum. LoveArts is free to use, including reading messages received from potential matches, however only paying subscribers can write personal custom messages. Packages start from £10.50 per month.
With 35 years of experience in bringing people together, eHarmony is certainly one of the best-known dating sites today. The service promises to focus on the quality, rather than quantity, of connections, allowing singles to find their perfect match. EHarmony has created its own guide to dating over 60 in the UK, in which it states: “There is no reason why advancing age should ever stop you finding love, which is why eHarmony is committed to helping singles over 60 find love later in life.
“There’s plenty of choice, too; we’ve welcomed thousands of singles over 60 who are looking for love online with eHarmony – they’re based all over the UK, from Bristol to Barnsley and beyond, and the list is growing every day!”
There are a variety of paid-for subscription plans available with eHarmony.
Tips for getting back on the dating scene
Take your time
When people have been single for a long time, it can be difficult to get back into the rhythm of dating. Suddenly, the prospect of meeting a stranger for lunch can bring feelings of anxiety or apprehension. It’s important for people to take their time when meeting new people, and to remember to go at a pace that is comfortable. Perhaps meeting others in groups or clubs could be an easier place to start, or using a service that offers opportunities for friendship and meaningful companionship, rather than a dating agency.
Make sure your dating profile photograph accurately reflects you
For those who decide to take the step to join an online dating agency, honesty is the best policy. It is recommended, where possible, that new daters ask friends or family to take a photo that accurately represents them, and that lets potential companions know something about them. For other singles over 60, the photo on a dating website will be the first indication they get of a potential match.
As well as choosing a reputable dating website, such as those outlined above, it’s important to be on guard against scams. Online fraudsters are a danger, so it’s important to stay vigilant and be suspicious. Do not discuss personal finances or give out any private details, and for those who are anxious about meeting someone in person, take a friend or family member along as a chaperone.
Above all, new daters should remember to have fun! After all, meeting new people, making new friends and potentially finding a new love interest is a fantastic thing. Those who are finding the process overwhelming should not be afraid to take a step back and go at their own pace. This should be an enjoyable experience.
Don’t let limited mobility get in the way of finding love or companionship. There are thousands of singles over 60 out there waiting to share their lives with someone special.
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